Pre-marital Jitters

Deep down you are a little frenzied, nervous, and there is an unknown fear inside. It becomes rather difficult for you to understand where all the anxiety comes from. There are several questions that keep disturbing you such as the ones enlisted below.

There are a million questions brimming through your head as you head for the all-important event in your life. We've tried to enlist some here.

What if the marriage doesn't work well?
What am I getting myself into?
Am I taking the right decision.....should I wait a bit?
Is this person I am marrying right for me?

Well, no matter how much you are in love with the person you are going to marry, it is quite natural to be nervous before taking this major step in your life. Therefore we have brought for you a few tips to help you overcome premarital fears and tensions.

* Sit with your fiancée and have a heart-to-heart talk. Good communication is the cornerstone of a happy marriage. Reflect upon what you enjoy most about each other, the factors that make you think you'll be happy together, and the things that are really important to you in life and love. Tell him how much you love him and look forward to your future together, and also get your fears and anxieties out.

* Go to a quiet place to 'listen' to your feelings, away from the pressures of the forthcoming wedding.

* Talk to couples who have survived and celebrated many years of marriage. They can be a good source of support and great role models.

* Set aside some time before the wedding to spend a romantic evening with your partner, away from the entire wedding plans.

* Remember and accept the fact that no matter how well you know each other, life after marriage changes with new responsibilities and duties coming in, thus getting pre-wedding jitters is normal.

* Sit down in a quiet place, do some deep breathing, get in touch with your feelings to know to what your heart wants.

* Observe some possible changes that may have taken place since the engagement. Is your partner exhibiting different behavior or engaging in activities you disapprove of? These things should be addressed before you proceed with the wedding plans.

* Reduce caffeine and salt intake. Caffeine, sugar, and salt cause high blood pressure, making you jumpy, nervous and high-strung.

* Laughing and singing are great ways to reduce stress.

The following exercises may help you maintain your composure:

* Do leg and arm stretches to help tone and to remove built-up tension from your muscles.
* Take a brisk walk. The more energy you use, the more stress you get rid of.

Take a few moments each day, preferably at night before going to sleep, and do breathing exercises. Breathing deeply, in a rhythmic fashion and helps relax your mind, body, and nervous system.